The economy and job market have left plenty of people feeling battered. It’s also stopped too many from believing in possibilities.
If you’re over 50, you may be thinking your options are pretty limited. You may have even lost some of the self-confidence you once had. It’s certainly not surprising if you’re having trouble believing in yourself these days.
It’s a real catch-22 situation, isn’t it? Whether you’re starting over in something new, building a small business, or conducting a job search, you’re expected to demonstrate confidence. But with everything that’s going on, you may very well be wondering if you have what it takes to go after what you want.
These 5 tips can help you start believing in yourself again. After all, when you believe in yourself, other people are more likely to believe in you as well.
1. List your past accomplishments. If you’ve been out of work or feel up against the economy, you may have lost sight of the things you have accomplished in your life. Take a look at each of the accomplishments on your list, then describe the challenge you faced, the action you took to meet that challenge, and the result. Reviewing your previous successes is a great way to remind yourself that you are capable and that you can accomplish things. Know that, based on your past history, you will figure things out this time as well.
2. Use your strengths. Instead of trying to overcome your weaknesses, identify where your strengths are. One of the best ways to start believing in yourself again is to put yourself in situations that you’re good at, to do what comes naturally. Analyze what skills are needed in the work or activity you want to do, and then compare them with your strengths. The purpose is to look for a good fit, to make sure that what you want to do is something you’ll enjoy. If you’re not sure what your strengths are, the StrengthsFinder 2.0 assessment is a good place to start.
3. Shift your focus to the needs around you. While it’s important to honor your strengths and past accomplishments, you must at some point look at what you can offer in the present. What problems do other people have that need addressing now? As you reach out to others, you take your attention away from yourself. And feeling like you’re making a difference can boost your self-esteem.
4. Express gratitude. Being grateful for what is right in your life is a powerful way to feel more positive about yourself. Taking some time each day to list what you have to be grateful for serves as a good reminder of what’s truly important. Expressing your gratitude can also help you change your perspective – instead of talking about what’s wrong with a situation, talk about the possibilities, the things you could do with that situation.
5. Take action. Stop procrastinating and put yourself out there. Do what you think you can’t do. Dare to believe in your dream! Decide to live the way you want to live, and then start by setting small but achievable goals. Trying out or learning new things may involve a learning curve, but the feeling of “getting it” can be so gratifying and empowering.
As you start to believe in yourself again – that you are capable, that you can succeed – don’t be surprised if you begin to notice opportunities that weren’t there before. That happens when you open yourself to possibilities.
What things can you do that would help you believe in yourself again?